There are a few things that drive my husband and I crazy. One is kids leaving the outside doors open and the other is excessive noise. Few things catch our wrath quicker than those. I've recently noticed how different those things are in other families. We have friends who feel the same way about leaving lights on. Our family is terrible about leaving lights on. I don't usually worry about it because on most days, five of us are home, in every in inch of the house, all day. If someone leaves a room, chances are they or someone else will be back in it in just a second. When my kids go to another house though, they may need to be mindful of that. Other families may not appreciate the Parker kids leaving all the lights on.
One of our jobs as parents is to teach our kids what is acceptable behavior. Some things are obvious - no hitting. Other rules like no touching the dishwasher, don't leave on the lights, and use indoor voices - may vary by family. It's OK for our kids to learn that different families might have different rules and they need to be respected.
It's also a good thing for us moms to remember that God may put different things on our hearts for our families. OUR families. Some moms are super laid back and anything goes. Other moms (ah hem) are not. God made us each different, gave us each the kids that He did, and it's important that we don't judge one another. We moms are in this together! If another mom lets her kids jump on the couch cushions, so what. (I don't need to let them do that at my house though.). If kid bedtime is midnight, I may want to raise my eyebrows, but I need to keep them down! It's not my place to judge how another mom is doing. My job is to love her and encourage her. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Here's another good verse. Matthew 7:1-2 Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Have you ever noticed how this happens? What goes around comes around and if you have a crabby, snarky attitude about someone/something - often times that same thing will come around and happen to you.
